“Your baby is ugly”
“Because your skill isn’t up to your aspirations yet.”
… is pretty much the end of that quote. I hope you’re having a slow morning, and I’ve successfully clickbaited you. It’s worth it, I promise.
This quote is from Brandon Sanderson. I just finished watching his intro lecture for the creative writing class he teaches at BYU.
I’ve watched his lectures many times. Not only are they helpful, but they are also quite motivating. Plus, he’s just a really wholesome man, I find. I often pick out little things I wouldn’t have thought twice about previously. And that’s what happened to me this morning.
About the ugly babies
He’s talking about envisioning the novel you want to write. Your baby. You spend hundreds of hours on it and imagine it to be gorgeous and beautiful. It’s your baby, after all.
But he warns that your firstborn (or maybe the first few) might be ugly once they’re here. That’s because you have all of these aspirations, but the skill isn’t there to match. Yet.
And for me, it’s a great reminder to keep going. I don’t know; maybe I’m an easy Kool-Aid drinker. But I think he’s right. Maybe the first book I write will be an ugly baby. It’s more than likely, actually. But my aspiration-to-skill ratio isn’t going to improve by doing nothing aside from worrying I’m making a hag.
I also thought about how it might apply to you, reader.
What were your past ugly babies, and how did they help you refine your skills? What kinds of ugly babies are you anxious about making now?
I can think of a few examples from friends. I have been a proud, loving aunt throughout many ugly baby phases.
My friend Janine is a talented photographer who runs a very successful business. I’m sure when she started out a decade ago, she had a few uggos on the hard drive.
My friend Amélie is a super strong and passionate runner, but I’m sure she’s had tough runs along the way. Those struggle days count as her ugly babies.
One of my siblings is a professional baker, and they’ve probably made a few ugly babies throughout their schooling or early days at the bakery to get where they are now.
And hey. What is this lesson, really? “Practice makes perfect!” and “Keep trying!” but re-packaged with funnier imagery? Kind of. Sanderson certainly isn’t reinventing the wheel here.
But I think the differentiator, for me at least, is that I want to keep reminding myself that these drafts, first tries, and practice sessions are still, indeed, my babies. They’re precious. Close to my heart.
This isn’t about burning through a few ideas before a get-rich-quick scheme, a side hustle, or a group project at school that I couldn’t care about. It’s more personal. And that’s why it’s scary.
So I thought you might also want this reminder before heading into a new week. The baby you’re making might come out ugly because your skills haven’t yet matched your aspirations.
You’ve thought so hard about something and have envisioned it to be this beautiful, alluring, flawless thing. You were so sure that’s how the world would see it, too. But it doesn’t often end up like that on the first few tries. And that, my friend, is part of the process.
And for what it’s worth, I think ugly babies are still cute. Keep makin’ ‘em.
